You might be thinking, “We’ll still spend holidays together for the sake of the children.” But here’s the thing. While that might sound good now, there will likely come a day when you don’t want to spend hours and hours with your ex.
Read MoreI always encourage my clients to keep a notebook during the divorce process so they can keep track of all their questions, priorities and visions for the future. It’s also a good place to keep track of all the to-dos so you don’t have to keep it all memorized.
Read MoreKnow that our emotional state is absolutely connected to our physical body. So when we can calm our body, our minds simply work better and we make better decisions.
Read MoreYou want to be calm so you can respond rather than react. Preparing both practically and emotionally way ahead of time will set you up to be in the right headspace for such an important meeting.
Read MoreThese meetings, as well as any communication between meetings, are confidential. Also, know that all decisions on the issues are made by the two of you. My role is to facilitate the conversations and the process but not to tell you what to do.
Read MoreThe outcome of any court proceeding is unpredictable. But there are some ways you can prepare for your day in court, so you’ll be a little less nervous.
Read MoreHopefully you and your co-parent will always agree on these things and it’s no big deal. But, if you disagree - like really, really disagree - how will the decision get made?
Read MoreThank you modern technology for all the options to help co-parents stay organized and communicate well. There are a lot to choose from so here’s a list to get you started.
Read MoreThe key to saving time, money and peace of mind, is to commit to an amicable divorce, even when things get tough.
Read MoreLike so many things in life, mediation is what you make of it. You can treat it like a waste of time and it will be or you can dive in and make the most of it.
Read MoreUltimately, confidentiality is one of the big reasons why mediation works. It gives people an opportunity to discuss their feelings, their hopes and intentions, and to be vulnerable in a safe space.
Read MoreHow you got to this place matters. What also matters, is how you want to handle things now; how much you are willing to let go of and what do you need to hold on to.
Read MoreSometimes, people think they will continue to celebrate special holidays all together even though they’re divorced. But most people can’t make this work and in my experience, the courts are wary about putting such language in a court order. But you have options!
Read MoreOne of the biggest misconception I’ve seen over the years is that people don’t realize that they do have the power to make decisions for themselves in court proceedings.
Read MoreIronically, there’s one quality that is actually shared between the two extreme types of people, the kind and the cruel.
Read MoreMen, heads up! “Only the mother of a child born out of wedlock is entitled to custody of the child, unless the father legitimates the child... Otherwise, the mother may exercise all parental power over the child.”
Read MoreJust because a mediator charges $300 (or more) per hour does not mean they have the experience to back it up.
Read MoreFinancial realities will often be the deciding factor for several other matters such as child support, debt division and what to do with the house.
Read MoreAs you’re in the process of making the major decision of divorce, you may be imagining a picturesque life on the other side of it and want to try and get there as fast as possible. It would be most wise, however, to take the time to do your homework so you can make informed decisions that may very well may impact the rest of your life.
Read MoreWrite down all your questions so you can keep track and get them answered. Once you have all of this in place you’ll be better prepared to consider and discuss the fairest way to share both debts and assets as well make plans for your next phase of life.
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