Clarity Mediation helps separating and divorcing couples reach a satisfactory and individualized settlement agreement.
It seems like when something happens, they jump to the conclusion as to why their partner is responding the way they are and no matter what the partner may say to dissuade them that they’re assumption isn’t accurate, the accusing partner stays stuck in their assumption.
Ironically, there’s one quality that is actually shared between the two extreme types of people, the kind and the cruel.
In mediation, when I see the disputing couple go into their well-worn patterns of argument I know it’s time to help them mix things up so we can keep moving forward.
Whatever the reactions may be, we mediators can see these dynamics from a mile away and we’ll do what it takes to make each person feel safe and calm enough to be able to express themselves constructively.
If you meant what you said or did and it wasn’t done maliciously or harmed anyone then saying you’re sorry doesn’t fit. If you’re negotiating and wanting to come across as tough then apologizing when you don’t mean it will undermine that.
It is our responsibility in a relationship to be aware of our own growth and needs as well as those of our partner.
Our egos can help us get through tough situations but it can also dig a deeper hole if we don’t keep it in check.
We’ve all had that experience when we’re trying to say something important and a particular word or phrase comes out of our mouth that just shoots the other person to the moon.
The things we think about the other person when we’re mad at them usually aren’t nice and if we come right out and say them, we’ll probably make things worse.
Taking time to love and appreciate your own self makes you a more grounded and secure person, which feels good to you and is attractive to others – personally, socially and professionally.
Be your best self in the face of conflict
When you sign up for the Clarity E-Zine, you will receive a free Conflict Reaction quiz to assess your personal style